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你若不伤,爱就无恙

Name: 你若不伤,爱就无恙
Brand: Jingdong book
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百万粉丝公众号“桃花马上石榴裙”李爱玲新作。代表作《哪有女人天生会当妈》《你不是直，只是太自私》。人民日报、十点读书、二更食堂、灵魂有香气的女子等各大微信公众号联合推荐，阅读量超过千万次。爱情HR，揭秘爱情、婚姻、自我成长中“高回报率与选育用留”的关系。
《灵魂有香气的女子》《美女都是狠角色》作者李筱懿深情推荐！“你以为她是朝天椒，其实她是粒薄荷糖。辣头甜尾，充满善意和温存。”
用错的爱来成长用对的爱来绽放。自己的强大和盛放，才是很好的安全感。不吝惜努力，不放弃争取。不丧失力量，不惧怕改变。
双色图文装帧，豆瓣知名插画师手绘20余幅情境插画。历经颠沛流离才得岁月静好。如果生命注定是一条颠沛流离的河，唯有坚强地活下去，才是对生命很大的敬意，才是对伤痛很好的回击。
李爱玲的文字是洪水猛兽，它会刷新你的三观，直至明心见性。除全部妖魔，平所有坎坷，度一切苦厄。你若不伤，爱就无恙。
《你若不伤，爱就无恙》可以送给自己，也可作为礼物，送给你在乎的人，感谢他（她）陪你从风景看透到细水长流。愿你在时间的无情里，做个有情的过客。

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李爱玲（笔名：桃花马上石榴裙），情感作家，80后妈妈，职场HR，身肩重负的女汉子，石榴裙骑着桃花马。在夜里写字，关于女人，关于情爱，关于婚姻。只愿在时间的无情里，做个有情的过客。个人微信公众号：桃花马上石榴裙。

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第一章女人多情、男人薄幸，各有因由
青春不给他，留着喂狗吗？ _ 2
男人的“聚焦式”，女人的“发散式” _ 6
爱里无“度” _ 14
红颜黄了你，蓝颜绿了他 _ 19
男人的心思你别猜 _ 24
你听寂寞在唱歌 _ 32
第二章自己的强大与盛放，才是真正的安全感
盛妆为女王，披甲上战场 _ 42
若无才华，拼脸能赢吗 _ 49
经历过火炼成钢，才能让往事如烟 _ 56
“剩女”也许是胜女 _ 62
女汉子的柔情你永远不懂 _ 68
一定有个可以疗伤的地方 _ 73
女为己悦容，让男为己悦者穷 _ 77
第三章婚姻是场“选育用留”
对婚姻伴侣的选择，是人生最重要的招聘 _ 84
婚姻是共同学习，不是单向培训 _ 91
婚姻契约里的距离与界限 _ 99
婚姻是在无期限合同里魂魄相融 _ 107
第四章你若不伤，爱就无恙
你若不伤，爱就无恙 _ 118
真爱过，会沉默 _ 124
至亲至疏是夫妻 _ 130
婚姻哪有永远的好人 _ 135
欲去其痛，必令其通 _ 140
哪有女人天生会当妈 _ 146
当妈所谓的“慢生活” _ 153
婆媳亦是相欠才相见 _ 158
第五章滤掉新仇旧怨，只留朝夕日暖
你不是太直，你只是自私 _ 170
岁月是台榨汁机，榨出精华与残渣 _ 173
好好活着，才是最大的能耐 _ 177
世界那么大，先过好当下 _ 182
不是岁月败美人 _ 188
哭泣的骆驼 _ 196
极简主义 _ 200

Introduction

对生活充满善意与温存的人，才能活出真实的自己
陶妍妍/文
（灵魂有香气的女子微信公众号创始人之一）
在别人新书的推荐中，想先说说自己。
我从小就是个脑筋不太好的人，中学时上立体几何课，永远只能看出平面；背历史年代表，属背得慢忘得快类型；在别人讨论报考北上广哪所高校时，我内心只有一个小火苗：就是读技校，也一定要读中文系。因为太爱“写”了。
就是靠这个“直觉”走到今天。虽然后来上了中文系，但并没能成为作家，而是兢兢业业当了13年都市报编辑和记者。
我在都市报最好的年华入行，没想到时代变化太快。纸媒衰退是不可回避的事实，也曾想过转型，但除了文字，真的对其它事都打不起精神。于是，2014年7月，和好友李筱懿在工作之余成立公号“灵魂有香气的女子”，主推自己和朋友们的原创文章。
很快要迎来这个小小公号一周岁的生日，订阅用户也已突破30万。有人称赞牛掰，我想说的是：真的是凭“直觉”走到今天的。
我常说一句话：小事靠理性，大事靠直觉。并不是句戏谑，而是直觉会告诉一个人，做什么、怎么做，才是最舒服最快乐的状态，只有乐在其中的状态，才能坚持最久。
埋那么多伏笔，一是想告诉正在读这本书的你，我和本书作者李爱玲是如何认识的；还有就是，一个做HR的女性是如何成为畅销书作家的。
因为是原创文章平台，每天会收到大量来稿，李爱玲是我一眼相中的金子。
从纸媒编辑角度看，李爱玲有自己的文风，语言节奏感很好，她的文字读起来像念Rap，嘎嘣脆生，充满韵律感，文字本身就有阅读快感。
从网络编辑角度来看，李爱玲的文章观点鲜明，从不拖泥带水，无论是《哪有女人天生会当妈》，还是《婆媳亦是相欠才相见》？？都是旗帜鲜明一开场就表明观点。符合网络传播观点鲜明的特点。
从选题角度来看，李爱玲是个扎根于生活的作者，因为做过企业HR，管人事工作，有很多机会接触很多人以及人事难题，所以能写出《世界那么大，先过好当下》《你不是太直，你只是自私》这样职场人际类文章；因为是个情感丰沛的女人，所以《你若不伤，爱就无恙》《至亲至疏是夫妻》这种情感类文章也很拿手；因为是个焦虑与幸福并存的新手妈妈，所以能写出《当妈所谓的“慢生活”》？？
从热爱的角度看，因为她真的爱用写作来梳理自己的人生，抚平气息的不顺，宽慰人性的坎坷，才会一点点挤出珍贵的私人时间，精心打造个人公号“桃花马上石榴裙”，也正因这份热爱，才能频频出手众多100000+点击率的热稿，才能在短短时间内，签约出版社，推出自己的新书。
最最重要的是：你以为她是一颗朝天椒，后来才发现，她是一粒薄荷糖，辣头甜尾，对生活充满善意与温存。
我一直觉得生活在一个很好的时代。和父辈价值观扁平的时代不同，这个时代更像钻石，被切割出很多侧面，从而折射出璀璨光芒。
这也的确是个有梦想的时代，当下的社会价值观推崇个人品牌打造，也肯定个人价值，并确信我们生活在一个有希望的时代。这更是中国女性成长最快的时代，在工作机会、家庭地位、个人成长等方面，前所未有的平等、多样。
我们谁也无法预料生活未来的样子。好在，有你，有我，有好文字相伴。
2015年7月

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