{{sellerTotalView > 1 ? __("sellers", {number: sellerTotalView}) : __("seller", {number: sellerTotalView}) }}, {{numTotalView > 1 ? __("items", {number: numTotalView}) : __("item", {number: numTotalView}) }}
free FREE

Change Your Zip Code

Inventory information and delivery speeds may vary for different locations.

Location History

{{email ? __('Got it!') : __('Restock Alert')}}

We will notify you by email when the item back in stock.

Cancel
Yami

Jingdong book

不打不骂培养有出息的男孩

{{buttonTypePin == 3 ? __("Scan to view more PinGo") : __("Scan to start")}}

不打不骂培养有出息的男孩

{{__(":people-members", {'people': item.limit_people_count})}} {{ itemCurrency }}{{ item.valid_price }} {{ itemCurrency }}{{ item.invalid_price }} {{ itemDiscount }}
Ends in
{{ itemCurrency }}{{ item.valid_price }}
{{ itemCurrency }}{{ priceFormat(item.valid_price / item.bundle_specification) }}/{{ item.unit }}
{{ itemDiscount }}
{{ itemCurrency }}{{ item.valid_price }} {{ itemCurrency }}{{ priceFormat(item.valid_price / item.bundle_specification) }}/{{ item.unit }} {{ itemCurrency }}{{ item.invalid_price }} {{itemDiscount}}
{{ itemCurrency }}{{ item.valid_price }}
Sale ends in
Sale will starts after Sale ends in
{{ getSeckillDesc(item.seckill_data) }}
{{ __( "Pay with Gift Card to get sale price: :itemCurrency:price", { 'itemCurrency' : itemCurrency, 'price' : (item.giftcard_price ? priceFormat(item.giftcard_price) : '0.00') } ) }} ({{ itemCurrency }}{{ priceFormat(item.giftcard_price / item.bundle_specification) }}/{{ item.unit }}) Details
Best before

Currently unavailable.

We don't know when or if this item will be back in stock.

Unavailable in your area.
Sold Out

Details

Full product details
Editer Recommend

★养育男孩,只要动气,你就输定了!
★打骂着长大的男孩不是叛逆就是懦弱,多半与优秀无缘。
★正面管教男孩,培养有出息男孩的教养宝典,教你不打不骂,不怒不吼养育最棒的男孩。教育最重要的不是做了什么应该做的,而是不应该做的坚决不做。
Content Description

全职妈妈根据多年的实战经验,总结出教育男孩应该注意和规避的问题,并根据这些问题给出解决之道。每个家长心中都有一个愿望:希望自己的孩子有出息。每个孩子出生时都是闪着光辉的,有出息的孩子只不过是家长没有把这些光辉擦拭掉。教育最重要的不是做了什么应该做的,而是不应该做的坚决不做。《不打不骂培养有出息的男孩》就是告诉家长,要培养有出息的男孩应该怎么做。
Author Description

孙晓,心理学博士。青少年心理问题咨询专家。多年来致力于青少年问题的研究,能“透视”十几岁的孩子们的心灵。最喜欢和孩子们一起做游戏,在游戏和聊天中发现孩子们的短板,然后用生动简洁的小故事启发孩子们。参与过汶川、玉树等地震灾区孩子们震后心灵的重建。是孩子们最信赖的“大伙伴”。
Catalogue

*打骂越多,孩子的归属感越差
*站在孩子身边,用朋友式的相处引导孩子独立,有责任感
*除了打骂,科学的方法更能让孩子做个好学生
*合理引导让男孩学会管理和使用金钱
*温情的教育让男孩更加坚强乐观
*听听孩子在讲什么,把自己的话说出来,实现良性沟通
*面对问题孩子,打骂往往让孩子更极端
*不强制,而是用同理心让孩子拥有好人缘
Book Abstract

很多爸妈使用的打骂为什么解决不了问题
真实案例:
成成刚上小学一年级,妈妈希望能培养他良好的学习习惯,所以对他要求什么严格。妈妈规定他每天写完作业才能吃饭,写作业时要拿尺子比着写,写错的地方要拿橡皮擦擦得干干净净才行。
“妈妈,我写完作业了。”成成小心翼翼地把作业簿交给妈妈检查。
一般家长的反应:
“说了你多少回了?写作业的时候要认真点,‘干’字的一竖上面怎么出头了呢?这么毛毛躁躁的能干好什么事呢?拿回去重写。”见成成很不情愿地站在原地没动弹,妈妈更生气了,推掇着儿子往书房走,成成吓得大哭起来。就这样边哭边写,妈妈始终还是不满意。
过了一段时间,情况依然没有好转,妈妈骂得越多成成错的也越多,也因为挨了几次打,成成看妈妈的眼神满是胆怯,变得沉默,不敢跟妈妈接近了。
比打骂更有效的方法:
妈妈感到十分心疼也很伤心,决定调整对孩子的态度。她花了一段时间,重新建立与孩子的感情,使他不在自己面前感到紧张、焦虑;不再强迫他必须在饭前写完作业,而是鼓励他将当天的知识复习一遍以后再动笔写;孩子出现错误的时候,也不再小题大做,通常会抚摸着他的头,告诉他错在哪里,应该怎么改,并且耐心地等着孩子改完,而不像以前那样稍微看不顺眼就拿他的作业本,要求全部重写了。
经过一个学期的训练,成成跟妈妈又恢复了往日亲密的关系,他每天都能开开心心地学习,快快乐乐地做作业,而且作业质量有了很大的提高,经常会被老师评为优+。
教养心得:
梅兰芳的家庭环境向来很宽松,他从不疾言厉色并绝不打骂孩子。梅兰芳曾说过:“把孩子吓傻了,就更听不懂了。不厌其烦地解说,总能让孩子明白的。”经常有人向他请教培养子女的经验,梅先生总是淡淡地说:“尊重孩子就像尊重观众一样!”教育子女时,梅兰芳善于用劝导代替责骂,通过言传身教,使子女从小就明白事理。梅葆琛回忆:“父亲对子女的教育,始终是很和蔼、很稳重,但有时很严肃,他从不会因为子女教育而发脾气,永远是以理服人,婉言开导。”
家长应该做到“以理服人”,使孩子心悦诚服才能达到好的教育效果。而打骂孩子只会让孩子表面屈服,并没有积极的和建设性的意义,家长应该及时缩回伸出去的手,闭紧想要张开的口。
专家解读
打骂使孩子渐行渐远。打骂孩子会严重伤害孩子与父母的感情,是父母亲手将孩子推到了与自己敌对的一面。心灵的创伤、皮肉之苦,会使他们产生怨恨、逆反的心理,导致亲情日益淡漠,隔阂越来越深,个别孩子甚至会产生报复心理。
孩子虽小,但也有思维能力,家长只有动之以情,晓之以理,才能打动心灵,使他们感受到父母的爱意,才会愿意与父母亲近,愿意接受父母的教育。
打骂使孩子失去自信。孩子缺乏对自我的正确认识,通常是通过大人的评价来给自己定位,经常挨打的孩子,自尊心受到伤害,容易产生自卑心态,认为自己样样不行,得不到父母的肯定,最后很可能会自暴自弃。
孩子也是有尊严的,就像一株幼苗,父母需要小心呵护,让他扎稳根基,有信心有能力挺拔于世间。
打骂使孩子缺乏责任感。有些父母认为打骂教育最省事,见效也最快,于是就懒得思考其他的方法来管教孩子。孰不知,这是在将自己对待事情不负责的态度传递给了孩子,孩子受家长影响,遇到问题也不愿意开动脑筋,想办法解决,而是能推就推、能拖就拖。
家长应该牢记自己的责任和义务,明白自己对孩子的成长与进步有着不可取代的地位和作用,勤学多知,不断丰富自己的知识,提高素质,才能更好地教育孩子。
打骂使孩子不诚实。孩子是很聪明的,有时为了逃避被打骂,往往迫使孩子违心地说谎,“不管能不能躲过十五,先把初一躲过去再说”,因为撒谎成功一次,就可减少一次皮肉之苦。可是,一个谎言是需要多个谎言来圆的,所以孩子撒谎很容易被父母发现,于是又有可能招来一顿打,如此就形成了恶性循环。
诚信是做人的根本,是要求孩子具备的最基本的道德品质。家长应该让孩子敢于承认错误,不能让暴力行为堵了他们的嘴,反而不利于孩子的身心健康。
打骂使孩子情绪不稳。经常挨打受骂的孩子容易脾气暴躁、情绪难以控制,而且极有可能以同样的暴力方式与人相处,由此带来许多不稳定因素。
家长在教育问题上不能想得过于简单,凭感情用事。要三思而后行,先冷静后想好如何说服教育,理智地控制自己的情绪很重要,要有足够的耐心,以理服人。
……
Introduction

前言“棍棒底下出孝子”的古训影响了一代又一代人,刚刚成长起来的“70后”、“80后”父母很多也受过“大棒政策”的折磨。我们很不情愿地看到:在今天这样一个从提倡文明、追求高素质的时代背景下,这一过时的理论居然还有广阔的市场。时代在发展,社会在变迁,即使在过去被证明是正确的行为,在现在这样的环境下也应该谨慎用之,何况我们并没有科学依据证明仅靠打骂就能教育儿童成材。相反,我们有足够的证据证明打骂对孩子有不利的影响。美国和加拿大科学家经过研究发现:体罚会降低儿童的情商,并且削弱儿童自制力,导致他们的行为表现更加糟糕。他们通过对63名5~6岁儿童进行测试得出结论:长期受到体罚的学生,行为能力明显不如未受过体罚的学生。这表明严酷的体罚可能会损害儿童的表达能力和行为能力,长期生活在这种环境中,儿童的情商会受到负面影响。不仅如此,近年来,被国际社会列为世界第三大公害的青少年犯罪数量上呈现出高增长的态势,据专家分析,这一现象与家庭教育不善有很大关系。有的学者认为,青少年犯罪的“病因植根于家庭,病象显于学校,病情恶化于社会”。父母打骂式的教育行为,使孩子暗中模仿,一旦遇到诱因,就会“爆发”成犯罪。
青少年时期正是人格培养、习惯养成、是非观和价值观形成的关键时期,这时期的孩子自我意识越来越强,渴望被认同,感情强烈而又易激动,任何身体上和心理上的暴力对待都会使他们在情感上远离父母、远离家庭,甚至做出出格的事情。父母一时冲动,对孩子大打出手,大多没有经过深思熟虑,没想到会造成不可弥补的严重后果,使孩子产生不良心态和心理偏差。打骂使孩子冷漠。父母是孩子最信任、最愿意亲近的人,看着他们向自己挥舞着拳头,哪个孩子的心里都不会好受。感受不到爱的孩子同样也不会付出爱。AC33打骂使孩子冷酷。父母的行为是孩子最好的教材。父母的打骂等于是在教孩子:世界上的事情都是可以用武力来解决的。
打骂使孩子孤僻。父母的打骂最直接地伤害了孩子的自尊心,使孩子感到自卑,总觉得低人一等。这样的孩子不仅很难取得成功,严重的日后还会伤害到自己或危害社会。
打骂使孩子撒谎。父母打孩子时经常会说他“记吃不记打”,实际上孩子是很聪明的,他们记住了挨打这件事,只是——与父母希望的不同,他们记住了下次犯错的时候要欺骗父母以求不被打。打骂使孩子懦弱。父母的打骂如果说“起了作用”的话,也是使孩子变得唯唯诺诺、谨小慎微,这是一种以爱之名对孩子进行的精神压迫。打骂使孩子逆反。父母会发现,慢慢的,打骂式教育对孩子已经没有效果,因为他们已经从心里产生了“抵抗力”。无论父母再说什么、做什么,孩子都不会听,因为他们知道父母也没有好办法:“反正就是皮肉之苦而已,没什么大不了的。”
“十年树木,百年树人”,家庭教育无小事,绝不能单靠打骂来解决。为了使家中有男孩子的父母都能意识到打骂教育的危害,编著者精选了一些家庭教育的实例,从正反两方面与诸位家长探讨教育的方法,帮为人父母者确立严教善教的家教,培养出具有良好心理素质和优秀道德品质的有出息的男孩。

Specifications

Brand Jingdong book
Brand Origin China

Disclaimer

Product packaging, specifications and price are subject to change without notice. All information about the products on our website is provided for information purposes only. Please always read labels, warnings and directions provided with the product before use.

View Full Terms of Use
Add to favorites
{{ $isZh ? coupon.coupon_name_sub : coupon.coupon_ename_sub | formatCurrency }}
{{__("Buy Directly")}} {{ itemCurrency }}{{ item.directly_price }}
Quantity
{{ quantity }}
{{ instockMsg }}
{{ limitText }}
{{buttonTypePin == 3 ? __("Scan to view more PinGo") : __("Scan to start")}}
Sold by JD@CHINA
Ship to
{{ __("Ship to United States only") }}
Free shipping over 69
Genuine guarantee

Added to Cart

Keep Shopping

More to Consider

{{ item.brand_name }}

{{ item.item_name }}

{{ item.currency }}{{ item.market_price }}

{{ item.currency }}{{ item.unit_price }}

{{ item.currency }}{{ item.unit_price }}

Coupons

{{ coupon.coupon_name_new | formatCurrency }}
Clip Clipped Over
{{ getCouponDescStr(coupon) }}
{{ coupon.use_time_desc }}
Expires soon {{ formatTime(coupon.use_end_time) }}

Share this item with friends

Cancel

Yami Gift Card

Get this exclusive deal when paying with gift card

Terms and Conditions

Gift card deals are special offers for selected products;

The gift card deals will automatically be activated if a customer uses gift card balance at check out and the balance is sufficient to pay for the total price of the shopping cart products with gift card deals;

You will not be able to activate the gift card deals if you choose other payment methods besides gift card. The products will be purchased at their normal prices;

If your account balance is not enough to pay for the products with gift card deals, you can choose to reload your gift card balance by clicking on the Reload button at either shopping cart page or check out page;

Products that have gift card deals can be recognized by a special symbol showing 'GC Deal';

For any additional questions or concerns, please contact our customer service;

Yamibuy reserves the right of final interpretation.

Sold by Yami

Service Guarantee

Yami Free Shipping over $49
Yami Easy Returns
Yami Ships from United States

Shipping

  • United States

    Standard Shipping is $5.99 (Excluding Alaska & Hawaii). Free on orders of $49 or more.

    Local Express is $5.99 (Available in Parts of CA, NJ, MA & PA). Free on orders of $49 or more.

    2-Day Express (Includes Alaska & Hawaii) starts at $19.99.

Return Policy

Yami is committed to provide our customers with a peace of mind when purchasing from us. Most items shipped from Yamibuy.com can be returned within 30 days of receipt of shipment (For Food, Beverages, Snacks, Dry Goods, Health supplements, Fresh Grocery and Perishables Goods, within 7 days of receipt of shipment due to damages or quality issues; To ensure that every customer receives safe and high-quality products, we do not provide refunds or returns for beauty products once they have been opened or used, except in the case of quality issues; Some products may have different policies or requirements associated with them, please see below for products under special categories, or contact Yami Customer Service for further assistance).
Thank you for your understanding and support.

Learn More

Sold by Yami

Terms and Conditions of Yami E-Gift Card

If you choose “Redeem automatically” as your delivery method, your gift card balance will be reload automatically after your order has been processed successfully;

If you choose “Send to Email”as your delivery method, the card number and CVV will be sent to the email address automatically;

Any user can use the card number and CVV to redeem the gift card, please keep your gift card information safely. If you have any trouble receiving email, please contact Yami customer service;

Yami gift card can be used to purchase both Yami owned or Marketplace products;

Yami gift card will never expire;

Yami gift card balance does not have to be used up at once;

All rights reserved by Yami.

Return Policy

Gift card that has already been consumed is non-refundable.

Sold by JD@CHINA

Service Guarantee

Yami Free Shipping over $49
Yami Easy Returns
Yami Ships from United States

Shipping

  • United States

    Standard Shipping is $5.99 (Excluding Alaska & Hawaii). Free on orders of $49 or more.

    Local Express is $5.99 (Available in Parts of CA, NJ, MA & PA). Free on orders of $49 or more.

    2-Day Express (Includes Alaska & Hawaii) starts at $19.99.

Return Policy

You may return product within 30 days upon receiving the product. Items returned must be new in it's original packing, including the original invoice for the purchase. Customer return product at their own expense.

Sold by JD@CHINA

Service Guarantee

Yami Cross-store Free Shipping over $69
Yami 30-days Return

Yami-China FC

Yami has a consolidation warehouse in China which collects multiple sellers’ packages and combines to one order. Our Yami consolidation warehouse will directly ship the packages to your door. Cross-store free shipping over $69.

Return Policy

You may return products within 30 days upon receiving the products. Sellers take responsibilities for any wrong shipment or missing items. Packing needs to be unopened for any other than quality issues return. We promise to pack carefully, but because goods are taking long journey to destinations, simple damages to packaging may occur. Any damages not causing internal goods quality problems are not allowed to return. If you open the package and any quality problem is found, please contact customer service within three days after receipt of goods.

Shipping Information

Yami Consolidation Service Shipping Fee $9.99(Free shipping over $69)

Sellers in China will ship their orders within 1-2 business days once the order is placed. Packages are sent to our consolidation warehouse in China and combined there. Our Yami consolidation warehouse will directly ship the packages to you via UPS. The average time for UPS to ship from China to the United States is about 10 working days and it can be traced using the tracking number. Due to the pandemic, the delivery time may be delayed by about 5 days. The package needs to be signed by the guest. If the receipt is not signed, the customer shall bear the risk of loss of the package.

Sold by JD@CHINA

Service Guarantee

Free shipping over 69
Genuine guarantee

Shipping

Yami Consolidated Shipping $9.99(Free shipping over $69)


Seller will ship the orders within 1-2 business days. The logistics time limit is expected to be 7-15 working days. In case of customs clearance, the delivery time will be extended by 3-7 days. The final receipt date is subject to the information of the postal company.

Yami Points information

All items are excluding from any promotion or points events on Yamibuy.com

Return Policy

You may return product within 30 days upon receiving the product. Items returned must be new in it's original packing, including the original invoice for the purchase. Customer return product at their own expense.

Yami

Download the Yami App

Back Top

Recommended for You

About the brand

Jingdong book

为您推荐

Yami
欣葉
2种选择
欣叶 御大福 芋头麻薯 180g

周销量 600+

$1.66 $1.99 83折
Yami
欣葉
2种选择
欣叶 御大福 芋头麻薯 180g

周销量 600+

$1.66 $1.99 83折
Yami
欣葉
2种选择
欣叶 御大福 芋头麻薯 180g

周销量 600+

$1.66 $1.99 83折
Yami
欣葉
2种选择
欣叶 御大福 芋头麻薯 180g

周销量 600+

$1.66 $1.99 83折
Yami
欣葉
2种选择
欣叶 御大福 芋头麻薯 180g

周销量 600+

$1.66 $1.99 83折
Yami
欣葉
2种选择
欣叶 御大福 芋头麻薯 180g

周销量 600+

$1.66 $1.99 83折

Reviews{{'('+ commentList.posts_count + ')'}}

Have your say. Be the first to help other guests.

Write a review
{{ totalRating }} Write a review
  • {{i}} star

    {{i}} stars

    {{ parseInt(commentRatingList[i]) }}%

Yami Yami
{{ comment.user_name }}

{{ showTranslate(comment) }}Show Less

{{ strLimit(comment,800) }}Show more

Show Original

{{ comment.content }}

Yami
Show All

{{ formatTime(comment.in_dtm) }} VERIFIED PURCHASE {{groupData}}

{{ comment.likes_count }} {{ comment.likes_count }} {{ comment.reply_count }} {{comment.in_user==uid ? __('Delete') : __('Report')}}
Yami Yami
{{ comment.user_name }}

{{ showTranslate(comment) }}Show Less

{{ strLimit(comment,800) }}Show more

Show Original

{{ comment.content }}

Yami
Show All

{{ formatTime(comment.in_dtm) }} VERIFIED PURCHASE {{groupData}}

{{ comment.likes_count }} {{ comment.likes_count }} {{ comment.reply_count }} {{comment.in_user==uid ? __('Delete') : __('Report')}}

No related comment~

Review

Yami Yami

{{ showTranslate(commentDetails) }}Show Less

{{ strLimit(commentDetails,800) }}Show more

Show Original

{{ commentDetails.content }}

Yami
Show All

{{ formatTime(commentDetails.in_dtm) }} VERIFIED PURCHASE {{groupData}}

{{ commentDetails.likes_count }} {{ commentDetails.likes_count }} {{ commentDetails.reply_count }} {{commentDetails.in_user==uid ? __('Delete') : __('Report')}}

Please write at least one word

Comments{{'(' + replyList.length + ')'}}

Yami Yami

{{ showTranslate(reply) }}Show Less

{{ strLimit(reply,800) }}Show more

Show Original

{{ reply.reply_content }}

{{ formatTime(reply.reply_in_dtm) }}

{{ reply.reply_likes_count }} {{ reply.reply_likes_count }} {{ reply.reply_reply_count }} {{reply.reply_in_user==uid ? __('Delete') : __('Report')}}

Please write at least one word

Cancel

That’s all the comments so far!

Write a review
How would you rate this item?

Please add your comment.

  • A nice nickname will make your comments more popular!
  • The nickname in your account will be changed to the same as here.
Thanks for your review
Our community rely on great reviews like yours to find the best of Asia.

Report

If you find this content inappropriate and think it should be removed from the Yami.com site, let us know please.

Cancel

Are you sure to delete your review?

Cancel

You’ve Recently Viewed

About the brand

Jingdong book