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男孩女孩天生就不一样

从来富贵多淑女,自古纨绔少伟男。“穷养男,富养女”不仅仅是家教古训,更是具有科学依据的教育方法。父母只有尊重性别差异,因材施教,才能培养出优秀的孩子。

受“穷”是福——男孩为何要穷着养

男孩女孩到底有什么不一样

男孩的成长蓝图

穷养的秘诀1:不要给男孩太多的物质享受

穷养的秘诀2:对男孩进行挫折教育

穷养的秘诀3:有责任感的男孩才能成大器
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不同的性别,就要用不同的乔百万式,培养出最优秀的男孩不是梦!只有经历过坎坷磨砺、性情坚忍的人才能担当大任,只有“穷”过的男孩才会明白优裕生活的可贵,才知道如何去创造财富,同时珍惜来之不易的幸福生活。穷养男孩不仅是一种教育投资,更是对男孩人生发展的投资。用最科学的方法、最通俗的语言给父母带来权威的穷养男孩的教育指南!

科学研究发现:染色体、大脑结构、荷尔蒙,这三大生理因素决定了男孩女孩天生就是不同的。
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肖骁,教育工作者,青少年心理咨询师,资深编辑,曾工作于教育一线多年,对现行的家庭教育有独到的见解,现从事儿童、青少年教育研究和文字创作,思想成熟,视角独特,教育理念先进、新颖,力求给父母切实可行的教育方法,给孩子一片快乐的天空,已出版图书《10-16岁叛逆期,妈妈如何引导孩子》《穷养男孩的100个细节》等。
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引言 受“穷”是福——男孩为何要穷着养

从来纨绔少伟男——穷养的真正内涵

自古雄才多磨难——让男孩吃点儿苦

教子真经——再富也要穷儿子

第一章 男孩女孩到底有什么不一样

男孩女孩大不同

奇妙的大脑生长过程

男孩大脑发育较慢,但右半球更发达

女孩比男孩调动左右脑的能力强

以正确的教育突破性别的局限

第二章 男孩的成长蓝图

这就是男孩

男孩成长的三个阶段

男孩入托、入学不宜早

令人惊叹的睾丸激素

为什么男孩喜欢竞争

穷养男孩,请尊重男孩的成长特性

第三章 穷养男孩,父亲要做些什么

“爸爸是偶像”——穷养男孩,父亲如何扮演自己的角色

“老子英雄儿好汉”——做孩子心中的男子汉

敞开心扉,做儿子情感上的榜样

父亲穷养男孩的关键之一:给男孩子制定规则

父亲穷养男孩的关键之二:让男孩内心强大、精神富足

父亲穷养男孩的关键之三:适当让男孩进行一些生存训练

第四章 穷养男孩,母亲如何扮演自己的角色

妈妈是儿子人生的总设计师——母亲教育决定男孩一生

做倾听者,不做管理者——妈妈是儿子心灵的港湾

青春期,男孩需要妈妈不同的爱

聪明的妈妈不唠叨

妈妈是儿子的“第一位情人”,引导他正确与异性相处

第五章 穷养的秘诀1——不要给男孩太多的物质享受

过多的物质是男孩成长的毒药

有钱也不能乱花,教会男孩合理使用零用钱

引导男孩不要在物质上跟别人攀比

“要花钱,自己挣”

美德无关贫富,培养男孩勤俭节约的品质

第六章 穷养的秘诀2——对男孩进行挫折教育

经历挫折洗礼的男孩最有出息

失败、挫折是上天送给男孩的礼物

逆境其实是个崭新的起点

在困境中,激发男孩的无限潜能

直面挫折,男孩才能学会勇敢坚强

给男孩设置挫折的五大原则

第七章 穷养的秘诀3——有责任感的男孩才能成大器

责任感是男孩肩上的徽章

男孩当自强,让孩子为自己的过失埋单

将权利和责任一并交给男孩

迅速消除男孩的依赖心理

告诉男孩“没有借口”

压担子,变观念,培养男孩的家庭责任感

关心时事,开阔视野,培养男孩的社会责任感

允许失败,不做扼杀男孩责任感的杀手

第八章 授之以鱼不如授之以渔——如何让男孩自觉、主动地爱上学习

巧妙引导,让学习成为男孩一生的乐趣

用积极的暗示激发男孩学习的信心

帮助男孩制订一个科学的学习计划

分数不是命根,理智对待男孩的考试成绩

激发阅读兴趣,引导男孩博览群书

授之以鱼不如授之以渔一提高男孩的学习能力

第九章 注重品格塑造,培养最具修养的男孩

诚实、守信——男孩处世的基本原则

宽容——男孩的心胸能海纳百川

谦虚——让男孩做最讨人喜欢的谦谦君子

细心、认真——请相信男孩也能做到

做事讲效率——让男孩不再因拖拉而疲惫

感恩——彬彬君子必备的涵养

自律——培养有纪律、懂规矩的男子汉

自我反省——让男孩学会总结经验教训

第十章 披荆斩棘,教男孩应对未来的机遇和挑战

独立自主——让男孩主宰自己的世界

领导能力——把男孩培养成未来的“领头羊”

决断能力——最体现男子汉气概的本领

创新能力——决定男孩一生的高度

交际能力——男孩成功的必备能力

自我推销能力——男孩赢得好未来的金钥匙

适应能力——教男孩正确应对开放的社会

双赢意识,让你的男孩学会合作
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教子真经——再富也要穷儿子

走在大街上,如果你留意一下孩子们,你会发现不少孩子浑身上下都是名牌,比如锃亮的小皮鞋;超市里,爸爸妈妈推着一车的进口奶粉和零食;走进商场,你会看到近百元的文具盒、数百元的书包、近千元的电子辞典比比皆是,父母们带着孩子在争相购买。有新闻报道,一位大学生驾驶170多万元的奔驰汽车上学。

对此,很多父母也许会说:“我辛苦赚钱不就是为了孩子过得好吗?给孩子穿了、用了,我一点也不心疼。”是啊,你不心疼,可总有一天,孩子的表现会让你头疼。

让我们看看国外的一些“穷养”的教育方法:

美国:美国青少年从小的时候开始,不管其家里多富有,男孩子12岁以后就会帮邻居或自己的父母在家里剪草、送报赚些零用钱,从小就开始认识劳动的价值。美国南部一些州立学校为培养学生适应社会的独立生存能力,特别规定:学生必须不带分文,独立谋生一周,方能予以毕业。条件似乎苛刻,但却使学生们获益匪浅。

德国:父母从不包办代替孩子的事情。法律还规定,孩子到14岁就要在家里承担一些义务,比如要替全家人擦皮鞋等。

日本:教育孩子有句名言:“除了阳光和空气是大自然的赐予,其他一切都要通过劳动获得。”孩子很小的时候,父母就给他们灌输一种思想:不给别人添麻烦。全家人外出旅行,不论多么小的孩子都要无一例外地背上一个小背包。别人问为什么,父母说:“他们自己的东西,应该自己来背。”

无数事实表明,越是受父母娇宠的孩子,往往越是不能体谅父母的艰难和苦衷,他们往往会因安逸舒适而变得不思进取。

如果论满足孩子物质需求的能力,大概没有比比尔·盖茨夫妇更有资格的人,然而在生活中,比尔·盖茨夫妇从不给孩子们很多物质和金钱,并且声明说不会把自己的财产遗留给自己的孩子。因为他们知道来得太容易的财富容易使人慵懒懈怠、贪图享受,消磨孩子身上向上奋斗的精神。

“我不会将自己的所有财产留给自己的继承人,因为这样对他们一点也没有好处。”

对此,有记者好奇地追问他:“难道你不担心将来孩子们会因此而记恨你们吗?”盖茨夫妇笑了笑回答道:“我们相信,如果父母教育得法,孩子们对待财富的看法不会和父母不同。”“财富不能给孩子们带来财富。”

沃尔玛是世界最大的零售业集团,它的创始人塞姆·瓦尔通在自传中写到:“子孙当中要是有谁胆敢玩弄纨绔子弟的那类奢侈品,我到地狱里也要起诉他。”以此来警告他的后代。

其实,美国的很多富翁都是如此。他们完全可以随心所欲地让自己的孩子过上奢侈的生活。但是,他们之中很多人却以一种平民的生活方式言传身教,让他们的孩子从小就领会到节俭的重要性。一些富豪有时还会安排自己的孩子去参加“饥饿体验”活动,让孩子了解这个世界的生存现状。

澳大利亚的父亲也同样信奉“再富也要穷孩子”的教子真经,澳大利亚的中小学中午不放学,午餐可以在学校的餐厅里购买,但大多数孩子自带饭。他们一般是一瓶可乐再加一个汉堡和一个水果,下课时随便在校园里寻一个地方坐下,便将食物“消灭”得干干净净,根本看不到将剩余食物扔得一地的现象。无论家境是富裕还是贫穷,孩子们都一样。

他们认为,娇惯孩子是在剥夺孩子的自理能力和独立生活能力,孩子会缺乏战胜困难的勇气,生存能力自然也会很差,长大后难免吃亏。

中国的很多父母总是不断地、尽力地让孩子远离苦难,远离贫穷。结果是大多数孩子的身心日趋脆弱,常表现出怯懦、孤僻、任性、自私等心理,因为他们不知道何为饥饿、何为劳累、何为困难、何为贫穷。当孩子真的看不到贫穷、不懂得苦难之时,孩子原本天真、善良的心灵亦会变得麻木不仁、冷酷,甚至永远不会成熟。这将是我们教育的最大失败。

有一个父亲,是位普通的职员,生活一直过得很拮据。在单位吃午饭,他很多时候吃的是方便面,对外还美其名日减肥;抽的烟,则是市面上最便宜的简装烟;至于穿衣,则是什么便宜就买什么穿了。然而,他对儿子的花销却很大方,可儿子却一点也不体谅父亲。国庆长假一回来,和父亲什么寒暄的话也没有,一开口就是要钱,除去买名牌服饰、买书等开销之外,每月的生活费还不能少于800元!本来差不多快有一个星期没有见面了,父亲想和孩子说说话亲热亲热,没有想到孩子竟然是这样的态度,加之想起孩子还嘲笑过自己穿廉价衣服,很老土、没品位。他顿时气不打一处来,狠狠地扇了儿子两个耳光。由此,孩子和父亲都陷入了冷战和痛苦之中。

在物质社会的今天,“小皇帝”“小公主”们随着物质的极大丰富而享受着其“理所当然”的富贵,吃的是美味,穿的是名牌,养尊处优,不知道金钱是怎么来的,性情娇纵,行为懒散,极端自我,不少举动到了不可收拾的地步。

错不在父母提供给男孩太好的物质条件,而错在父母富了男孩的物质而穷了男孩的心灵。只用物质培养的孩子,他们从小就失去了人生的目标,他们没有经受过挫折,不懂得珍惜,更谈不上尊重别人。这样的孩子,我们还指望他做什么呢?

而聪明的父母就会有自己优秀的教育:

某部队的一名高级干部,儿子以高分考取全国重点大学。在给朋友们介绍教子经验时,这名高官说,儿子从懂事到考入大学前,从未坐过自己的高级轿车。也未随父亲一起参加过工作应酬和公务活动,在大家的眼里,他就是一名普通百姓的孩子。所以孩子从小个性单纯、勤奋努力,成绩非常优秀。与那些所谓“富贵”家庭出身的孩子相比,这位大男孩毫无飞扬跋扈的架势,甚至见着陌生人还有些脸红呢。朋友们说这位父亲对待孩子未免不近常情,但他笑笑答道:“我是为了不让儿子感觉到优越性,从小培养他精神意志上的进取心。”

总之,再富也要穷儿子,这才是教子真经。

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